Hello, I’m back!
First some housekeeping. A big thank you to all my new readers who have recently subscribed to my blog and to those of you have taken the time out to contact me.
Your kind words have really given me a boost to keep writing and getting my posts out there, even if it does take me a while. Thank you for being patient! And welcome to a post dear to my heart – The Basis of Transformation.
This is Your Blog Too
My dear friend lari has not only helped me to migrate to another web host and update this blog (doing an absolute sterling job), but to also get to the crux of its purpose and that is Transformation.
As this blog develops you may see a few changes popping up here and there. If something doesn’t work or you can’t find what you are looking for, please give me a shout using the contact form and I will get on to it!
This is your blog too.
A platform to share your own transformative experience, insights and observations. Maybe you have a question or just want to comment on a post. Whichever way, the contact form comes straight to me and me only, so please do not hesitate to write something if you wish.
The Simple Truths
Moving on, I firmly believe that each personal crisis or suffering that we experience sets us onto a path to discover our purpose, our ‘true-selves’ if you will.
Whether or not we can transcend our pain and suffering depends on us accepting a number of simple truths. These simple truths may at first appear to defy logic but if they are wholly accepted and practised, life will start turning around.
These simple truths are common themes if you like that run across religions, philosophy, new-age thinking and self-help paraphernalia. However, I have picked them out as they are the common truths that I have discovered on my journey and they are the truths that I often see in other people’s transformations.
Truth One - Our Consciousness Exists Outside of Our Bodies.
“There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates and fills the interspaces of the Universe” – Wallace D. Wattles.
It was one of those grey cloudy days where the air felt heavy and thick. I wasn’t having the best day at work and all I could think about was going home and crawling back under my duvet.
Instead I was sitting propped up on a stool at a café near work, waiting for a friend to join me for lunch.
This was before I had any concept of consciousness, universal energy, or anything remotely ‘woo-woo’.
Half-way through our meal my friend asked what I thought about our existence. Was I just my mind or could I exist outside of my body? I stared back at him with my mouth open thinking “WTF?! I need to get out of here. I just want my duvet not a mind-bending conversation”. I wasn’t ready. Not everyone is.
Not until something happens to literally shove us onto a path where we start to learn these things for ourselves.
For me, learning Reiki was my confirmation that our human lives here are not all that is.
Take this passage from the physicist David Bohm’s work:
“The field of the finite is all that we can see, hear, touch, remember and describe. This field is basically that which is manifest, or tangible.
The essential quality of the infinite, by contrast, is its subtlety, its intangibility. This quality is conveyed in the word ‘spirit’, whose root meaning is ‘wind or breath’. This suggests an invisible but pervasive energy, to which the manifest world of the finite responds.
This energy, or spirit, infuses all living things, and without it any organism must fall apart into its constituent elements. That which is truly alive in living system is this energy of spirit, and this is never born and never dies.”
Whether it is a belief in a God, or Divine, or One Energy, or maybe in nothing, there appears to be a common consensus that the human life is not all there is. We do not begin and end here. More like we come from somewhere and we go somewhere.
We also may not be the only intelligent living species to ever live in our galaxy.
I believe we are forms of consciousness coming forth into our bodies to have this experience called “Life”.
Where we come from is a subject of much speculation, but ask any person on the street if they believe that when we die we just cease to exist, you will find that not many people will agree with you.
One thing that has really driven this simple truth home to me is reading the Near-Death Experiences (NDE) of people from every sort of background you can imagine. Religious, Atheists, Young, Old, Rich, Poor, it doesn’t matter what they were before they experienced an NDE, but they are never the same again.
Their lives are literally transformed within an instant but one of the most interesting things to note (amongst many) is the absolute belief that they still existed even when they had “died” or left their bodies.
They were still consciously aware of themselves and their surroundings.
Truth Two - The Life You Experience is a Reflection of Who You ARE, Not What You Ask For.
Hands up if you have heard of the Law of Attraction (LoA)? Hands up if you are eye-rolling right now. Yep, I get it.
The LoA, made recently famous by dear Rhonda, is the belief that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into one’s life.
Or to put into another way, humans have the ability, through the power of thought, to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.
I want to side step this one. I think it’s more about creating our circumstances rather than attracting them.
The beliefs we hold, the thoughts we think and the resulting feelings, create our experience of life through our consciousness.
Your most dominant beliefs and thoughts, mainly about yourself, are the ones reflected back to you.
So, you can be saying affirmations until you are blue in the face or creating your vision boards, but it won’t make the blindest bit of difference if you spend the rest of your time sinking back into old life-limiting thoughts and behaviours.
It’s those dominant beliefs (which are often un-said and un-acted) that will reflect back in your life.
My life only changed when I became aware of my limiting thoughts and recognised them for what they were; a repetition of past beliefs that no longer served me.
As soon as I became aware of them and made better friends with myself, my mood and confidence greatly improved and I started to let go of my old behaviour patterns.
Yes, I have blips now and again, but those are signposts to keep practising what I have learnt.
The game changer was shifting my focus on how I wanted to feel rather than what I physically wanted.
All the physical things in the world evoke a feeling response. It’s that feeling response you want to focus on, not on the actual object itself.
It is not an instant fix. It can take some time to undo what has been deeply ingrained in our psyche for so long. But the effects on your body and life are almost instantaneous as soon as you start to do it.
As you change, your circumstances will too and people who match this ‘new you’ will start to enter your life.
This is what the LoA is. What you perceive through your own ‘inner’ world, will be reflected back to you. See my perception post for more on this important point.
This video from Anita Moorjani really captures the essence of what I am saying and how the LoA concept is quite misunderstood.
Truth Three - The Present Moment is Where You Create.
It is in any given moment that you are creating for your future and whatever dominant thoughts are flowing through your mind, will dictate your future beliefs, feelings and actions.
I am sure you have heard the two words “Be Present”. Or you may be familiar with Eckhart Tolle’s work. The present moment really is the only moment that matters.
Be aware as you live your day on what you are doing in any one given moment. Whether it’s a task at hand, chores, a conversation, being with your children, whatever it is, just totally be in the moment and observe it.
If you find that your mind is constantly chattering while you are doing something, try and note what the dominant thoughts are.
Are they life-enhancing thoughts? Or are they life-limiting thoughts?
Or are you simply thinking about what you have to do next (get some milk) rather than focusing on what you are actually doing?
Time is simply a way of keeping track of your life, not a reason for living your life.
You can only ever live a moment at a time.
Wrapping it Up
Life to me is like one of those magic water paintings. You know the one. Where you use a water pen to colour in a pre-drawn painting, and colours magically appear.
I hope you enjoyed this post.
See you soon.